Conquering the FOMO

FOMO, or the "fear of missing out", is something that I used to feel very regularly. I know that, as I am writing these very words, that there is some event, some gathering, some festival, some hackathon, or some "thing" is out there right now that if I attend I would find incredibly rewarding, but I am unfortunately not there. Even worse, I have no idea where, what, and when these events are.

Reflecting and meditating has been helping me appreciate the moment and the present wherever that is, and that certainly helps, but that's also a double-edged sword. Just because I am content with where I am in the present doesn't mean that I shouldn't seek things that would make my time even better and more worthwhile.

I am at fault, and I know that. I don't actively seek events or gatherings to go to, despite how rewarding some of them were for me. Last weekend, I decided to rebel against this lazy person that I am. Rather than actively seek events though, I decided to automate that process. I wrote this nifty little script that finds interesting events on EventBrite and automagically adds them to an "Events" calendar on my behalf.

Here's how the initial version looks:

Events Calendar

It's certainly not amazing, but not bad for a first iteration! Now whenever I want to make the most out of a day, I can just check out this calendar to see if there's somewhere worthwhile to go. Just yesterday I ended up going to a meetup on Non-Gaming Virtual Reality, which was super interesting - I would've not known about it if wasn't on my calendar.

I'll be working on improving this over time. I'll think about other areas in my life that I can better optimize too.

May’s Techshop Classes

I am going all in on classes at the Techshop this month. So far I signed up for the following:

  • Vacuum forming
  • Making a metal rose
  • Magnet Printing
  • Making a leather wallet
  • Woodshop SBU

There's no particular direction or agenda behind these classes. Each one of the classes above opens a new domain of knowledge that I am currently very unfamiliar with. Hopefully some inspiration comes out of it.

Plans for May

I am feeling this very strong sense of willpower lately. This morning, for example, I forced myself to wake up at 6am to see the sunrise despite heading to bed fairly late. Why? Because I know that behind this barrier of laziness in the morning there's something out there that makes my day feel amazing.

Waking up in the morning is one habit I plan to stick to. In fact, a couple of days ago I created a page where I list my habits and started to track how well I am sticking to them via a spreadsheet. Am I going overboard by doing this? I don't think so. Moving forward I want to be very deliberate with my behavior. I want to choose what to do and what not do very consciously.

With that in mind, and in the light of this new month, I also want to be deliberate about how I plan to spend it. I don't want to over plan, especially because I am very new to this and don't want to over do it.

Things to understand

  • Business: I want to be more business-savvy. When I watched "The Big Short" I felt like an idiot who doesn't understand what's going on in the world, and that was the one key thing Larry Smith was trying to teach us in his economics class back in Waterloo. I need to fix that. I want to have a better understanding of the world economy and what's happening around me.
  • Nutrition: what does it mean to eat well? What's good for you and what's not? I have some understanding of this based on hear-say (e.g. that sugar is bad for you), but I want to understand at a deeper level the different effects of food on your body.
  • The Internet: this sounds rather embarrassing, but I am unsatisfied with my understanding of how the internet works. More specifically, how two computers communicate at a fundamental level. E.g. what is a connection? What does it mean to have an open connection between two computers?

Things to explore

  • Techshop Classes: I still have coupons for nine more classes at the Techshop, and I better make use of them this month. In a later post I'll dive deeper into what classes I plan to take.
  • Mindset: a few days ago when I spent 45 minutes singing I felt very zen. I almost felt like I was on drugs. In some way I felt like I was altering my mindset by singing. I want to explore what other exercises one can do to in that space.
  • Exercise: while I do workout, it's very unstructured and I can be long stretches of time/days not working out at all. I'd like to put some structure to it by the end of this month.

That's it for now. More to come.

الخيرة في البكور

اليوم هو اليوم الثالث على التوالي الذي أستيقظ فيه في البكور لمشاهدة شروق الشمس. منذ عودتي إلى سان فرانسيكو و أنا أشعر بالاختلاف. أشعر بسكينة لست معتاد عليها و أشعر بقوة في الإرادة لم أشهدها منذ زمن. لا أدري سبب هذا التغيير الذي حدث بي. ربما هي نتاج رحلتي إلى القاهرة و أبي ظبي و برلين.

في الأيام الثلاث الماضية استيقظت بنيّة جعل هذا اليوم يوما مثاليا و متكاملا. في صباح اليوم على سبيل المثال بعد شروق الشمس كرّست ساعة من وقتي للغناء. يقال أن الغناء غذاء الروح، و بلا شك شعرت بهذا اليوم. غنيت موشح "لما بدا يتثنّى" مرارا و تكرارا. شعرت بسعادة غامرة في بداية اليوم و التي ملأت باقي يومي بالبهجة و السكينة.

في الأيام الماضية بدا لي أن السعادة لا تتطلب الكثير بالنسبة لي. اكتشفت أن بعض السلوكيات البسيطة كالاستيقاظ مبكرا و مشاهدة شروق الشمس و تكريس وقتا لتنمية الجانب الروحي تمنحني السكينة التي أبحث عنها.

قوة الإرادة التي أشعر بها الآن تحثّني على تحويل هذه السلوكيات إلى عادات، و أولها ستكون الاستيقاظ مبكرا و مشاهدة شروق الشمس.

و أخيرا، هذا هو الموشح الذي استمعت له صباح اليوم.

An Ideal Day

Today has been an ideal day in many ways. I woke up at 5.20am, watched the sunrise, did some writing, did some rope skipping and exercises, went to work early, was very mindful and productive at work, went to a yoga class after work, and I was a vegetarian.

I feel content, and it is this kind of contentment that I think can be "learned". When I woke up this morning, I decided that today was going to be a perfect day, and I think just the act of consciously deciding so was a big reason my day turned out this way. I expected my day to be great, and great it was. My day is in large part a function of my expectation.

On top of my expectation, I did small things to my day that had great impact on my contentment. Waking up early, doing a little bit of exercise, watching the sunrise - all these little things add a lot of meaning to me. I would like to spend more time identifying what these little things are that add a lot of meaning to me, and work on making them habits. More on that in future posts.

My mind is a sandstorm.

I feel like with my current travels my mind has been like a sandstorm. So many thoughts are in my head right now and I need to spend the time to sit with myself, as I am doing now, and ink my thoughts out.

Currently, I am in Berlin to see a few of my friends. Before that, I was in Abu Dhabi to attend the NYU Abu Dhabi hackathon, and before that I was in Egypt visiting family. Needless to say, each trip was a whole different world, and so much has happened in each of them that my mind is becoming very messy with all the thoughts, emotions, and exhaustion I have been experiencing.

Sunday I fly back to San Francisco - feels like I haven't been there in ages.

Forgetful I am, and forgetful I won’t be

When I started writing this post, I was supposed to be on a flight to Istanbul. But, instead, I started writing it as I was sitting just outside of my home in San Francisco. In case you’re wondering why I am outside of the home, it’s because I forgot my keys. And, in case you’re wondering why I did not make my flight to Istanbul, well, it’s because I lost my passport.

Yes, I lost my passport. Not only that, but, of all places, I lost my passport while I was waiting to board the flight - seconds before boarding! The personnel called on my group to board, and I then noticed that my passport was missing. I almost ripped my bags apart looking for it. I almost disassembled the chair I was sitting on looking for it. I almost ripped out the carpets I walked on in case it magically fell underneath them, but it wasn’t there. I checked at the deli where I bought a salad shortly before my flight. It was gone, and gone was my flight.

Five minutes after the airline offloaded my luggage and the flight took off, I remembered that I threw my salad in the trash can just before they called on me to board, and in that trash can was my passport. Yes, as stupid as this sounds, I accidentally threw my passport in the trash can. As frustrating and silly as this experience was, I was at least glad I found the passport. Otherwise, I won't be where I am now. I am now at the airport waiting to board the same flight, except it's only 24 hours and $880 later. Ouch.

I feel quite zen actually about the whole experience. Accidents happen, and being more frustrated about them happening won't do any good. However, there were a couple of thoughts in my head about this whole experience.

How can I prevent this accident from happening again? How can I stop being forgetful?
My mind is definitely in a bizarre state lately. In the past six weeks I lost my retainer and my belt*. Yesterday I forgot my keys at home and the whole passport fiasco at the airport cost me anxiety, 24 hours of time I could've spent with family, and $880. Late last night I was with my travel agent on the phone working on my flight rebooking, only for my roommate Omar to realize the next morning that I dropped my debit card in the kitchen. It's clearly something to do with my state of mind lately. Possibly a combination of work and a few other things on my mind. I am not being present, and I need to explore avenues to change that.

As a security measure though, I'll be ordering bluetooth trackers to attach to my keys, passport, wallet, and bag. That way, an accident like the one yesterday would almost never happen again.

Why is this a problem to begin with?
Another thought I had was, why was this even a problem? Why do I need a physical document to identify myself, and without it I am an anonymous entity? Why isn't identification digital yet? I know the answer to this question is not so simple. Not all countries and airports have the resources to be equipped with a way to digitally identify people. And, even then, there are the security concerns that such a system can be hacked. But, I feel like these challenges are not that significant to overcome. Food for thought.

Now I better catch my flight, before I miss it again.

* How can one lose a belt? Seriously.

The Weekend Project

It's around 4.30 in the morning right now. I woke up around an hour ago after taking a five hour "nap". I was supposed to go to the Techshop with Omar and work on some art projects, but I saw him falling asleep at around the same time I did too. I guess it wasn't meant to be.

I am not feeling particularly great. I came back home yesterday after a long brainstorming session with Sean. Sean and I have been spending a lot of time together lately. We're both passionate about building impactful things that will help change people's lives, and we've been conducting some brainstorming sessions to see what kind of projects we can work on together.

For this weekend, we thought we'd do an experiment where, instead of trying to do something big, we'd try to do something small over the weekend and sell it, whatever that small thing might be. One thing we talked about building, as a joke, is to make coasters made of cork with logos of "unicorn" companies and give them a hefty price tag. In a way, they'd be overvalued, just like some of the unicorns out there.

We did create a prototype, but the prototype didn't excite us. It felt cheap and there was nothing unique about it. In addition to that, there was this raging voice inside me inquiring why on earth am I wasting my time making a coaster. It's just not significant to me nor is it something I care about or would use.

Instead of refining the prototype, I think we silently disregarded it and were brainstorming another idea, and then another, and then another until we parted ways later that night. We didn't even commit to meeting up tomorrow to finish up this weekend project, and so it seems like this weekend project failed.

But, why did it fail? Is it because I wasn't excited? Is it because I didn't persist hard enough? Is it because the experiment itself was flawed? I think that's something worth diving into.

There's no question that my excitement clearly faded soon after we started working on the project, and it's also very clear to me that we didn't persist enough in trying to make things work. But, what about the setup of the experiment itself?

The experiment, as I remember it being phrased Thursday night when we thought about it, is to build something over the weekend and sell it. It is by no means meant to be a long term project, but the process of building something end-to-end and selling it, we thought, would be an interesting exercise.

As we started working and, now that I think about it, I realize there were fatal flaws with this experiment:

1. The objective wasn't clear.

What metrics we can look at to measure whether or not we succeeded? How many do we need to sell for us to call the experiment a success? Is selling just one to a friend sufficient, or should we aim to sell a dozen? Do we have to build the product ourselves, or is just selling an existing product sufficient? Does the product have to meet a particular quality bar - something what we're proud of sharing with the world?

None of these questions were things that Sean and I had discussed beforehand. As a result, we wasted a lot of brain cycles focusing on things that, in retrospect, don't really matter much. If we just cared about selling one, do we really need to spend a lot of time thinking about how we make it polished? Does it need to a generic product that can be used as a coaster, a trivet, a placemat, and a piece of art to hang on your wall all at the same time? Probably not.

Had we been very crisp about the objective from the very beginning, a lot of these discussions could have been avoided.

2. The goal wasn't clear.

Not just the objective was unclear, but also the goal that we're striving towards by accomplishing the objective was unclear. Is the goal to learn how to build products quickly and ship it? Is it to be resourceful and scrappy? Is it to be a better salesman and learn how to market a product? Is the goal to make money? Is the goal to be an entrepreneur? Is the goal to just help people in general?

These things matter - a lot. I know it might be too simplistic to have one very specific goal and nothing else since all these goals are often intertwined. For example, to be a successful entrepreneur you need to make money, and to make money you need to be good at selling, and you probably want to work on something that helps people as well, and to be helpful for people a sense of creativity and ability to build products quickly would be a substantial advantage, and so on.

The point here though is to have a clear sense of prioritization. Out of all these goals, which one matters the most, and how would I stack the other goals? At first stab, I'd say that, for myself, my top priority would be to impact as many people as possible, but even that's inherently vague. Not only that, but when people say they want to "impact people", I feel like it's often really just a generic altruistic-sounding umbrella that covers their real intention, which could be less altruistic - like being famous or making money (and there's nothing wrong with that).

Anyways, writing the last couple of paragraphs about goals were a bit of struggle for me, and I take that as a signal that I really need to brush up my goals and prioritize them. Otherwise I, in every sense of the word, don't know what I am doing.

Time for me to go watch the sunrise.

Cardboard Etching

I've been in talks with Omar for a while about how we wanted to add an artistic touch to our room. But, up until yesterday, it was all talk and no action.

I was at the Techshop last night working on my tax return and, as I was about to head out, I decided that it was time to bite the bullet and do something that we can use in our room. And, since I've been playing with laser etching the past few days, I decided to etch Arabic calligraphy, since it's an art form that I love.

I found this beautiful Arabic calligraphy art piece online

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I then decided to try out etching on cardboard, mostly because it was cheap, and partially because I was wondering how it look like. The results were much better than I expected. Check this out:

Not bad, right? Super economical too. In fact, Omar and I are now considering covering entire walls with cardboard tiles with various works of art. Maybe arrange the different pieces like a bee hive or something.